Re: Losing interest in just about everything...help
Kim ~ This isn't an unusual thing to happen and infact you are right about on target to the nature of things. When you first meet someone chemicals in your body increase causing the buterflies. The hightened chemicals only last about 6-9 months then slowly go away. They can always be sparked again but it is harder to do with someone you already have felt this way before.
So here is my advice, if he is a good guy one that you wouldn't mind being married to, then make a go at it with a one a day/one a week.
The one a day is always try to do a nice thing for them once every day. It can be a note, e-mail, a card etc. I do this with my wife and it seems to really help are relationship even after ten years and it really doesn't put you out for cost.
At least once a week go on a date even if it is a picnic in the park. To many marriages fall apart because they are left to mundane life and that isn't what attracts you to a person.
Also try intamacy. Hold hands, hugging, kissing, massage etc. The more you touch one another the more magic it feels like is there.
If you feel depressed by all means talk to your doctor and maybe he/she can direct you to a psychologist or therapist that can walk you through so you can discover the underlining issues.
I wish you the best and I hope you stick with the forums.
draconis
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