Originally Posted by Ballin21
She says she wants me now and that she wants to work on us. She swears that she never had any physical contact with any other guy. Maybe Im just so naive, but I beleive her. Whether or not it was physical it still destroys the fact that another man had courted my ex-wife and she went along.
Im so hurt and I dont want to let go, even though legally im divorced. The collateral dmage is awful too with my family and friends b/c of all the people in the world I was the last person who deserved this.
Another amazing thing to add about the god awful nye weekend. That sunday night I saved an old womans life as she was choking and I perforomed the hemlich with her laying on her back. It was an out of body experience bc she would have died. No joke! She was blue and limp, and was in and out of conscioiusness. The whole restaurant exploeded with applause and I was on cloud 9, but only for a moment as my wife was away. I told her this story via text and she said some lame remark. I dont know about you but somewhere I was hoping to prove my worth and hvae her say she is lucky to have someone like me. Im not a big spiritual person, but I guess if she didnt leave I would have never been in that restaurant and saved this womans life.
She travelled against your wishes to go have sex with another man. So now it might be ok because it may have just been one man. Like that is not disrespectful enough. She lied to you before.
The thing is she has proved she cannot be trusted, does not respect you and is willing to spread her legs for another man just because she wanted to.
As has been stated her family enabled this cheating.
You do not have children with this woman. Do you really want to have children with a woman like this. You do not want to have children that take any of her traits. Find someone better.
Realize too that taking her back at all shows low value period. She will just cuckold you again ... and again. Have some self respect. You do not need this woman in your life. Find a worthy woman.