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YPbPr · 05-10-2012, 03:05 PM

So question...

I'm of the opinion this could be an attempt to take the EA to PA. I'm guessing there might have been two attempts in the past that were thwarted. The first was perhaps my willingness to work on things and take advantage of her emotions and tug on here heart strings. I think a second attempt might have been made when she "left me" but she later came back. She also got her period at that time and a reaming from her parents so maybe that stopped her a second time.

So now this comes up again and attempts are being made. If this hasn't been a PA should I stop it before it does? Or, do I need to let this ride out and expect the worst. I've read how a lot people here had that gut feeling but didn't do anything and later wish they did.

I don't have any hard evidence. I could present the idea that this week's new lingerie purchase has me concerned (I saw she bought lingerie on her bank records and then found the bag in her car to confirm). I would need to tell her I saw them in her car. Now she wants to go spend the night somewhere. I could also say I'm concerned that she's staying out with the company where her OM is. Thoughts?

05-10-2012, 03:05 PM	#141 (permalink)
YPbPr Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 144	Re: Need Guidance With Exposure and Execution of 180 So question... I'm of the opinion this could be an attempt to take the EA to PA. I'm guessing there might have been two attempts in the past that were thwarted. The first was perhaps my willingness to work on things and take advantage of her emotions and tug on here heart strings. I think a second attempt might have been made when she "left me" but she later came back. She also got her period at that time and a reaming from her parents so maybe that stopped her a second time. So now this comes up again and attempts are being made. If this hasn't been a PA should I stop it before it does? Or, do I need to let this ride out and expect the worst. I've read how a lot people here had that gut feeling but didn't do anything and later wish they did. I don't have any hard evidence. I could present the idea that this week's new lingerie purchase has me concerned (I saw she bought lingerie on her bank records and then found the bag in her car to confirm). I would need to tell her I saw them in her car. Now she wants to go spend the night somewhere. I could also say I'm concerned that she's staying out with the company where her OM is. Thoughts?