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Heartbroken · 04-24-2008, 05:40 PM

Can amyone tell me when mid-life starts? And what signs to look for. And What can a wife do to help her husband trough??

My husband is 37, I am 36 and we have one 7 yr. old daughter. Six months ago my husband had been really down and depressed. I knew something was wrong but he told me it was just stress at work. Well one night he purged everything. He told me that he had a one night stand with a woman from his work the year that we were engaged to be married. (We have been married for 14 + years now). He also told me that he was having confused feelings about a co-worker that he works with presently. He confided in her things that he had never told me before, until our open conversation. He told me that they would go to lunch together and talk, listen to music. He told me that he had bought her on two separate occasions, a music cd. of the music that they had been listening to. He told me that he was so depressed and unhappy about his life. He felt suicical. He thought I would want to leave him for all this. Suprisingly, to myself also, I did not leave. I was just shocked and tried to make him feel better. It made me sad that he wanted to end his life...
Well, fast forward to now, six months later, and he is going into a slump again about not being happy. I ask him "Is it me"? Is it work? What can I do? He tells me nothing. I ask What's wrong? He tells me "I don't know". I'm scared that he is maybe having an affair. or that he is not in love with me anymore. How can I be sure? I ask him point blank, "Do you still love me?" He says he does. What can I do?

Any one out there been through this before?

04-24-2008, 05:40 PM	#1 (permalink)
Heartbroken Registered User Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 13	mid-life?? Can amyone tell me when mid-life starts? And what signs to look for. And What can a wife do to help her husband trough?? My husband is 37, I am 36 and we have one 7 yr. old daughter. Six months ago my husband had been really down and depressed. I knew something was wrong but he told me it was just stress at work. Well one night he purged everything. He told me that he had a one night stand with a woman from his work the year that we were engaged to be married. (We have been married for 14 + years now). He also told me that he was having confused feelings about a co-worker that he works with presently. He confided in her things that he had never told me before, until our open conversation. He told me that they would go to lunch together and talk, listen to music. He told me that he had bought her on two separate occasions, a music cd. of the music that they had been listening to. He told me that he was so depressed and unhappy about his life. He felt suicical. He thought I would want to leave him for all this. Suprisingly, to myself also, I did not leave. I was just shocked and tried to make him feel better. It made me sad that he wanted to end his life... Well, fast forward to now, six months later, and he is going into a slump again about not being happy. I ask him "Is it me"? Is it work? What can I do? He tells me nothing. I ask What's wrong? He tells me "I don't know". I'm scared that he is maybe having an affair. or that he is not in love with me anymore. How can I be sure? I ask him point blank, "Do you still love me?" He says he does. What can I do? Any one out there been through this before?