Quote:
Originally Posted by ing  Denial in the BS is powerful and the trauma of betrayal triggers the flight, flight or freeze response Most people freeze. They are unable to believe that this is happening to them. The advice may look incredibly harsh but from experience you learn that people rarely act on the advice and if they do it is much watered down. This leads to multiple posts with one sentence
"Divorce the skanky rat" |
I agree completely with everything above including the advice to divorce them.
Quote:
Originally Posted by ing I saw some argument about exposure. Of course you should expose it. Of course people have a right to know. It brings the affair into the light. If it is "tru love" then it will survive and the BS can move on with their life, quickly and as cleanly as possible. If the WS sees that they were wrong then they can address the problem with the person they married. They will probably divorce but they are at least talking. |
This is exactly the sort of bad advice I see dispensed here on a regular basis. I've been through an expensive high conflict divorce and I can tell you from personal experience, having learned by having been through it that if divorce is likely, to do things that will escalate the conflict will only make things much worse than they already are.
Nothing to be gained from exposure especially if it's a workplace affair that may result in job loss of the cheating spouse and higher support obligations for the betrayed spouse.
