swedish

I think in general, this is true. People do what they know and will repeat past behavior unless something significant makes them realize they need to change and want to change. For me, I needed to hear from my husband what he would do to avoid situations that might lead to an inappropriate relationship. And not that I want to see him hurting, but that he shows true feelings of remorse and really understands and feels horrible for the hurt he caused me. I don't want to live my life in constant worry (although I still have my bad days) so I said if you ever get to this point again, at least respect me enough to tell me before you act on it and we will take it from there...I would do the same.