Originally Posted by jaquen
Actually no, not "according to" me. I take marriage extremely seriously, and would never suggest divorce lightly. How does your situation remotely fit the criteria I was referring to in the post you quoted? My post was about low drive individuals, with little to no interest in sex, entering into marriage knowing that they have no desire to fulfill their partners sexual-emotional needs. It's also about LD people who are holding onto spouses that they are putting on the bottom of their list. That, to me, is clearly fraud and entrapment.
So unless your wife entered into your marriage knowing full well that she had no intention, or desire, to meet your sexual needs, I fail to understand how your story applies to anything I said.
No she didn't entrap me... that was never her intent. Part of the problem for us too was that I don't think she had a clue what a sex drive looks like. She thought she had one, explained to me that she did. To her that mean: I have masturbated and enjoyed doing it when the mood struck. Unfortunately we found out later that the mood struck 1-2x/month a best.
I was also ignorant as well, I assumed that everyone wanted sex like I did, at least once a day. So a lot of failed communication, ignorance... and really we didn't get good premarital counselling.
My whole take from this, is that for all our kids... all of them will a gift of great premarital counselling on our dime.
I wish more couples went through a high quality counselling program prior to marriage. It would prevent a lot of what we see here on the forums daily. Not all... but a lot of it.