| | Re: My apathy is killing our marriage?
You just openly admitted that you agree that you caused some of your marital problems. You can start by genuinely apologizing to her for those things that you have put her through.
It sounds like what frustrates her the most is when she does come to you and tell you how she is feeling, you don't really say much or empathize with her feelings. This is extremely frustrating for a woman, because it appears as if you don't care, even if you do.
You should try to work on your communication skills. You don't want her to start resenting you more and more. This will eventually push her over the top. She sounds like a great woman because she went along with some of the things that you chose for the both of you, such as the house, when really both people should be making those decisions together and both people should be happy with the decision.
Maybe you can do something creative for her for Mother's Day, something that shows a lot of emotion, not your typical flowers and chocolates. Write her a letter or poem, showing your appreciation. It seems that it may be difficult for you to vocalize your feelings, yet you were able to be very open and specific on this post. Do little things for her that you would not normally do to show that she is appreciated. Make the effort if you love her, or else things can potentially get worse. Now is the chance before it's too late.