Amplexor

Sounds like you are doing a lot of the right things. If she has withdrawn from you and the children I would be concerned about depression as much as a problem in the marriage. For her to withdraw from her children indicates there may be deeper issues. I assume she is on meds and she should continue. A medical exam would also be advisable. This may take a long time for her so continue to be loving and caring with her. You seem to be a very strong and caring husband in how you are dealing with the violation of your marriage vows. Keep up the good work. These things can and do get better. Best of luck and I hope you find additional support here.

I'll disagree with Shane here a bit. Take your time with the gifts and dates and don't over due. If she hasn't had that kind of attention for a while it may be overload for her. It may come off as a quick fix or insincere. That's how my wife initially reacted anyway. Good luck.

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Amp

Confidence – Love – Patience – Faith Are the tools to help heal a marriage.