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mollyL · 04-25-2008, 09:40 AM

I am very sorry you are having such troubles. You seem to really love your marriage and family and will take the steps you need to save them. I think Amplexor is right to not go overboard with gifts, but Shane is right about the rest of his advice. You will hear things that will probably hurt you quite a bit, but it is essential that she get down to home truths with you and the counselor. I will add that she needs to be seen by her doctor NOW, because I think your wife needs to be put on antidepressants and probably an anti-anxiety medication. She also needs a good looking over, perhaps some blood tests etc to see if there is anything physical that is causing or contributing to her problems. Also, her doctor and her counselor will be on the same page, because they will probably want to consult with each other. It is important to understand that it takes some time for the meds to reach therapeutic levels in her body, so she won't change immediately.
What else you can do right now, if she will let you touch her, is give her a good massage, starting with her neck and shoulders. Draw her warm baths. Flowers are a very good idea. Talk to her in a soothing but not condescending tone. Walks would be good.
All the best to you, man. I hope it all works out.

04-25-2008, 09:40 AM	#5 (permalink)
mollyL Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 126	Re: Urgent help needed I am very sorry you are having such troubles. You seem to really love your marriage and family and will take the steps you need to save them. I think Amplexor is right to not go overboard with gifts, but Shane is right about the rest of his advice. You will hear things that will probably hurt you quite a bit, but it is essential that she get down to home truths with you and the counselor. I will add that she needs to be seen by her doctor NOW, because I think your wife needs to be put on antidepressants and probably an anti-anxiety medication. She also needs a good looking over, perhaps some blood tests etc to see if there is anything physical that is causing or contributing to her problems. Also, her doctor and her counselor will be on the same page, because they will probably want to consult with each other. It is important to understand that it takes some time for the meds to reach therapeutic levels in her body, so she won't change immediately. What else you can do right now, if she will let you touch her, is give her a good massage, starting with her neck and shoulders. Draw her warm baths. Flowers are a very good idea. Talk to her in a soothing but not condescending tone. Walks would be good. All the best to you, man. I hope it all works out.