Originally Posted by Browncoat
I was also ignorant as well, I assumed that everyone wanted sex like I did, at least once a day. So a lot of failed communication, ignorance... and really we didn't get good premarital counselling.
My whole take from this, is that for all our kids... all of them will a gift of great premarital counselling on our dime.
I wish more couples went through a high quality counselling program prior to marriage. It would prevent a lot of what we see here on the forums daily. Not all... but a lot of it.
That is a very sound observation, and what insight in regards to looking ahead and helping your children when the time comes for them to inter matrimony. I see that you're a good father as well as husband. What a gift they all are for having you.
We didn't do premarital counseling. There wasn't any need, and that is mainly because we were best friends for such a long time before turning romantic, and then were in a relationship for even longer before marriage, that we'd built a very strong foundation of communication. Counseling helps couples to think about questions and issues to address that many do not, or are uncomfortable approaching. But it's imperative to be open, free, and as honest as possible when entering a lifetime commitment such as this.
I'm glad you guys are finding a way to survive, and even thrive, despite your issues.