Originally Posted by Conrad
It's more complicated that you state.
What was her childhood like?
Pretty messed up. Both her parents were alcoholics and drug abusers. Her mother left when she was about 9 and became a lesbian. She told me she was abused by baby sitters at one point. She was raised by her father for the most part who was both strict and apathetic at the same time.
Before we got married she flat out told me she hadn't gotten married yet because she didn't want to end up like her parents. I think her fears are unfounded as neither of us are drug or alcohol abusers. She also doesn't like the fact that I've brought up that we each have roles in our relationship. She's gotten pretty mad when I suggested it's my (the man's) job to be the provider, and it's her job to take care of domestic issues. Maybe she has a right to be angry about that statement, but I am the sole income provider and my working hours don't really facilitate me to be a Mr. Mom. Maybe I'm stuck in a 1960's ideal of the nuclear family...I dunno.