Originally Posted by SadSamIAm
I have been doing these things off and on for 24 years. I get the same response as you do.
Of course you do and the bolded above is why.
This isn`t a game, it`s not a "play", making your wife hot for you is a way of life.
She takes it as pressure to have sex.
Because it is.
If it was sincere it wouldn`t be "off & on" it`d be all the time whether sex was even a possibility or not.
She never initiates anything that could be construed as 'foreplay', and if I do it, she feels pressure. If I don't do it, then I am not romantic. There is no pleasing her.
Then there is this possibility as well.
Sometimes it really doesn`t matter what you do.
But still, I wonder, she wasn`t always like this was she?