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heartsbeating · 05-13-2012, 07:55 PM

This is why the other stuff has to be dealt with first.

And it will take both of you to recognize that things need to change if you want to have a chance of hanging in there in the long run. And/or at the very least, have an understanding for YOURSELF as to what is going on.

It is my feeling that with understanding and facing the why, then the what needs to change can happen IF both parties are willing and able to go there.

Would you be open to seeing a councilor? Preferably together but otherwise IC? It's not something I usually suggest but it helped us to break the mold/patterns we were developing. And particularly if you don't feel you are listened to and don't understand what is happening with him. He obviously has unresolved anger and resentment towards you, or perhaps related to something in his life/his past that needs to be dealt with.

05-13-2012, 07:55 PM	#22 (permalink)
heartsbeating Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Batcave Posts: 4,280	Re: Three weeks of not initiating... Here's where I am... This is why the other stuff has to be dealt with first. And it will take both of you to recognize that things need to change if you want to have a chance of hanging in there in the long run. And/or at the very least, have an understanding for YOURSELF as to what is going on. It is my feeling that with understanding and facing the why, then the what needs to change can happen IF both parties are willing and able to go there. Would you be open to seeing a councilor? Preferably together but otherwise IC? It's not something I usually suggest but it helped us to break the mold/patterns we were developing. And particularly if you don't feel you are listened to and don't understand what is happening with him. He obviously has unresolved anger and resentment towards you, or perhaps related to something in his life/his past that needs to be dealt with. __________________ "Victims; aren't we all" - The Crow Last edited by heartsbeating; 05-13-2012 at 07:59 PM.