Hello,
I'm new here, this is my first post. I have been married for about 4 years now and over the past 7 months or so the level of intimacy has gone down to almost nothing. We have a 5 year old and after he was born the sex had dropped off a bit but that wasn't really a problem. But this is different, its like she (my wife) just has no desire, no drive if you will to do anything. Now i will point out that she is a little older than me, I'm 28 and she is 31. So when i ask her why she doesn't want to do anything she says i don't know. Now that's frustrating after like the 10th time you hear it. So with no GOOD explanation I say something like "so what are you doing someone else ?" ( i apologize for my terminology) and she says " NO ! WHY WOULD YOU SAY SOMETHING LIKE THAT?" Well because you don't want me and you can't give me any kind of an explanation so what am i supposed to think ? After so long of not being "together" your mind starts to mess with you for a lack of a better term. So my mind starts to take the best of me and i start snooping around her email and her cell phone and i find some calls to a "MC" no name just that. And i look at the call history and she calls this number like 5 times a day. when i pull up the phone bill i can see that the calls are only like 1 to 3 minutes long, the longest being 6. Now i know there are privacy issues here with me but that's besides the point here. So i called the number to see what i could find out and i get some guys work voicemail and his name does match the MC in her phone. Now i haven't asked her about yet because I'm afraid to admit my snooping but i think i have good reason to.
What should I think/do in the situation ?????
I'm sorry for the length of the post..
Mr.Unsure