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tffny.smth · 05-14-2012, 02:08 AM

My Husband and I haven't even been married for 2 months, yet and I already feel like I'm just waiting around for him to decide to leave me. I don't mean that this is what I want, but that I'm getting the feeling that he wants to leave and he just hasn't yet.

In total we've been together for about 8 months and honestly it's been full of arguments and fighting nearly since the beginning, but I'm the kind of person that throws myself into a relationship immediately and fully. Regardless of whether or not it's "healthy" I fell hard for my DH right away and there was no turning back. I'm the kind of person that doesn't say "Good-bye"... I'm in a relationship for the long hual and subsequently am alwayz the one who gets left rather than doing the leaving.

My DH and I already have a child on the way, due in August. She's my first and his 3rd. I personally believe this is why he was willing to marry me even though occasionally he is willing to say that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. However, it's difficult to get him to say ANYTHING that is romantic or "lovey-dovey".

Anywayz...

My point is that deep down I'm already sure that our relationship can't survive, because I sense that he IS going to leave me one day. And even though I'm VERY anti-divorce, should I give up now when the relationship is still fresh rather than waiting to be left? I don't want to waste precious years in an unhappy relationship only to get discarded by yet another man. But then what if I'm wrong and he IS willing to work this out and stick around no matter what?

05-14-2012, 02:08 AM	#1 (permalink)
tffny.smth Registered User Join Date: May 2012 Location: Arizona Posts: 1	To Leave or Not to Leave... That is the question... My Husband and I haven't even been married for 2 months, yet and I already feel like I'm just waiting around for him to decide to leave me. I don't mean that this is what I want, but that I'm getting the feeling that he wants to leave and he just hasn't yet. In total we've been together for about 8 months and honestly it's been full of arguments and fighting nearly since the beginning, but I'm the kind of person that throws myself into a relationship immediately and fully. Regardless of whether or not it's "healthy" I fell hard for my DH right away and there was no turning back. I'm the kind of person that doesn't say "Good-bye"... I'm in a relationship for the long hual and subsequently am alwayz the one who gets left rather than doing the leaving. My DH and I already have a child on the way, due in August. She's my first and his 3rd. I personally believe this is why he was willing to marry me even though occasionally he is willing to say that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. However, it's difficult to get him to say ANYTHING that is romantic or "lovey-dovey". Anywayz... My point is that deep down I'm already sure that our relationship can't survive, because I sense that he IS going to leave me one day. And even though I'm VERY anti-divorce, should I give up now when the relationship is still fresh rather than waiting to be left? I don't want to waste precious years in an unhappy relationship only to get discarded by yet another man. But then what if I'm wrong and he IS willing to work this out and stick around no matter what?