Originally Posted by unbelievable
You've come through so much. You've been snatched from the jaws of death, so every day is like God's special present for you. Your husband is acting like a jerk. Try not to let that rain on your party. Working out to lose weight is ok, I guess, but how about just getting outdoors and having a little fun because you're alive and, by God, you can!? You are so much more than just a number on a set of scales! While you were on the meds, you probably felt like crap and weren't able to have much fun. You sort of owe it to yourself to celibrate a part of the world that you were missing. Every day is a gift of 24 hrs to each of us and the sun doesn't rise or set on any man or any woman. Don't worry about him or the future. Just make up your mind to live 100% every day, to get and give the most out of every hour. You are a beautiful daughter of God, created in His very own image. What's more special than that?
QFT. Unbelievable, I wish I could have hit the "like" button 500 times. You're a good person.
And so are you, OP! You deserve so much better than this, and you know better than many of us, as Unbelievable pointed out, how fragile and precious life is--too precious to be wasted on someone who doesn't deserve the heartache you feel over him.
I admire the fact that after all it sounds like he's done, you still have the magnanimity to want to help him dig to see what the hell his problem is, and possibly save your marriage. I'd have been long gone years ago.