| | Re: Need Guidance With Exposure and Execution of 180
Quit moving so fast.
First off, tell her she needs to come clean with everything. Tell her you know more than what she is teling you and you might even go so far to say that you have proof the affair went physical and that if what she tells you does not match up with the evidence you have, then the convo is over and you will get the ball rolling on divorce tomorrow. Bluff her as much as you feel you can.
Do not forgive her!.... yet. Tell her the marriage is on hold and she is on probation for the indefinite future. She WILL go tpo IC and MC with you. She WILL write a no contact letter, let you approve it, and send it to the OM in your presence. She WILL, hand over all cell phone and computer access passwords and she WILL hand you her cell phone whenever you ask to see it.
No more male friends, no more GNOs, no more working late hours, she calls you when she leaves somewhere and when she gets somewhere. Don't ask if she will do these things, tell her she will do these things. If she balks, ask her to pack her bags and leave and that you will have her served with divorce papers.
You need to get mean with this woman and quit fooling around.