| | Re: Time to get my ducks in a row?
Just one word about the lying - all cheaters lie like crazy. They will always choose a lie over the truth. It often takes months, even years, for all the truth to come out. Sometimes it never does.
The key for you - in my humble opinion - is for you to realize that you will likely continue to learn more about your husband's actions. If you decide to stay with him, understand that you'll need to find a way to get past it all. Believing that you know all the details already is unreasonable. You probably don't.
This is difficult. But it's reality. Every person who decides to stay married in some way has to accept that the past is the past and that the future is what they're after.
And don't everyone jump here - I don't mean that there aren't consequences for the past or that issues don't need to be resolved. What I mean is that at some point we have to accept that what happened is done and move forward. Even if moving forward is in divorce, it's not staying where you were.
Poppy - lamaga has made a good point. If you've seen a lawyer and you want a divorce you should get on with it. Waiting for the other shoe to drop is a bad way to live.