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donny64 · 05-15-2012, 05:52 AM

I'm not sure how it is for "all" or "most" women, but I feel my W's thoughts are very much in line with my own....

As a man, I can apperciate and get very turned on by the visual of an attractive woman. Specifically a nice "b" cup perky boob. Puts me over the top and there is no better "visual" for me. But that's a visual thing and not a fantasy.

My fantasies will almost always involve my W. Threesomes, or things we don't do together, and never would (though we've come close to the WMW threesome thing). But she's there. My fantasies do not feel as good if she's "not there" in my mind when I'm having them.

She has fantasies I know of. Anal. We will likely never do that. I'm a bit on the large side, and she worries about other aspects of it as well. But she has that fantasy.

Two guys on her. She has that one as well. And (at least reportedly, lol) when she does, I'm involved. She has no desire to actually live that one either.

Woman on woman. She has that one as well. Though she admits oftentimes that fantasy involves me "watching". Not always, but most of the time.

They're fantasy. I have zero heartburn over her fantasies, just as I hope she has none of mine. It's human nature. The "unthinkable" or "too naughty" can be an extreme turn on. Doesn't mean it could realistically, or even remotely happen. I hope I'm mostly somehow involved in most of her fantasies, but ya know what? If I'm not in all of them, so be it, she may occassionally not wind up in all of mine either. Does not mean a thing or have a thing to do with "us". I feel we both understand that and are both as individuals and as a couple all the better for that understanding.

I believe where our line is at, is while we both may have fantasies about imaginary people or people we have just seen and do not actually know, I'm fairly certain neither of us crosses over the line of fantasy about people of the opposite sex we do know. That seems to be touching on dangerous territory, and I personally don't like to go there. Fantasy is about the "act" or some "hot guy" or "hot gal" one of us has seen. It is never about "you know...your friend so and so...." or "there's this guy / girl in the office". Best to avoid that altogether.

05-15-2012, 05:52 AM	#41 (permalink)
donny64 Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 680	Re: Women, do you think about it? I'm not sure how it is for "all" or "most" women, but I feel my W's thoughts are very much in line with my own.... As a man, I can apperciate and get very turned on by the visual of an attractive woman. Specifically a nice "b" cup perky boob. Puts me over the top and there is no better "visual" for me. But that's a visual thing and not a fantasy. My fantasies will almost always involve my W. Threesomes, or things we don't do together, and never would (though we've come close to the WMW threesome thing). But she's there. My fantasies do not feel as good if she's "not there" in my mind when I'm having them. She has fantasies I know of. Anal. We will likely never do that. I'm a bit on the large side, and she worries about other aspects of it as well. But she has that fantasy. Two guys on her. She has that one as well. And (at least reportedly, lol) when she does, I'm involved. She has no desire to actually live that one either. Woman on woman. She has that one as well. Though she admits oftentimes that fantasy involves me "watching". Not always, but most of the time. They're fantasy. I have zero heartburn over her fantasies, just as I hope she has none of mine. It's human nature. The "unthinkable" or "too naughty" can be an extreme turn on. Doesn't mean it could realistically, or even remotely happen. I hope I'm mostly somehow involved in most of her fantasies, but ya know what? If I'm not in all of them, so be it, she may occassionally not wind up in all of mine either. Does not mean a thing or have a thing to do with "us". I feel we both understand that and are both as individuals and as a couple all the better for that understanding. I believe where our line is at, is while we both may have fantasies about imaginary people or people we have just seen and do not actually know, I'm fairly certain neither of us crosses over the line of fantasy about people of the opposite sex we do know. That seems to be touching on dangerous territory, and I personally don't like to go there. Fantasy is about the "act" or some "hot guy" or "hot gal" one of us has seen. It is never about "you know...your friend so and so...." or "there's this guy / girl in the office". Best to avoid that altogether. Last edited by donny64; 05-15-2012 at 05:57 AM.