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Hope1964 · 05-15-2012, 02:22 PM

KNOW THIS: If she is cheating that is 100% - ONE HUNDRED percent - on HER. The state of your marriage has nothing - NOTHING - to do with her choice - that's CHOICE - to cheat. You need to realize this and quit blaming yourself for her cheating. If she is.

THEN you need to find out the extent of her betrayal.

Then you need to decide what you want to do - try to work on things or not.

Unless you know for sure what she's done, you don't have the basis you need to make future decisions about your relationship.

05-15-2012, 02:22 PM	#21 (permalink)
Hope1964 Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Alberta Posts: 5,425	Re: I feel Alienated KNOW THIS: If she is cheating that is 100% - ONE HUNDRED percent - on HER. The state of your marriage has nothing - NOTHING - to do with her choice - that's CHOICE - to cheat. You need to realize this and quit blaming yourself for her cheating. If she is. THEN you need to find out the extent of her betrayal. Then you need to decide what you want to do - try to work on things or not. Unless you know for sure what she's done, you don't have the basis you need to make future decisions about your relationship. __________________ You sound reasonable... Time to up the medication FOR CWI NEWBIES ~My story~ Understanding the Pain - required reading for WS's Help for sex addicts and their spouse