Originally Posted by tmiller632019
I am pretty sure it is not a physical affair. Probably an emotional affair. Someone telling her all the things she wants to hear. Promising her a new and better life. Probably bashing me in the process. She has friends that have been through a divorce and all of them have come from a spouse cheating on the other. I haven't cheated, the things I have done can be corrected. I just have to figure out a way to get her to change and stop listening to everyone else and just talk about things between us. I am her husband, she should be free and willing to talk about anything to me. I believe she is in the "fog". She might not realize it. Should I let her read the article on the affair fog? Would it help?
tmiller, don't show her this site, at least not now. If she's in the fog, reading about it won't accomplish anything. Only hard consequences will.
Even though you think it's probably not physical yet, you don't really have any idea about that. And while I'm sure there was plenty of talk about you with this guy, at this point, it's moved beyond that. Sure, the way you've been treating her helps her justify her actions, but at this point it's the excitement of being with someone new. It's the feel-good chemical dopamine that has a hold on her. It's now all about this guy now.
So stop obsessing with the way you treated your wife in the past and start finding out what exactly is going on.