Originally Posted by uzername
Do you ever look at your spouse and just think..."ugh"..or.."meh"... either you are not attracted to them at all or you just see them as a non-sexual being..?
Do you have a sense of why that happens? Sometimes I can look at my husband and feel that good spark. Other times I look at him and he's not attractive to me at all - but then an hour later I can be attracted again. This must have more to do with my mood or how I'm feeling about myself, I guess, because obviously nothing changed about him in an hour. But the not feeling attracted thing scares me - what if the next time it doesn't change again and I spend the rest of my life not attracted to him? Anyone else deal with this?
This is pretty close to my situation. I can look at my wife and see she is physically very attractive, but I have no desire to have sex with her, and haven't in nearly two years.