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dawn · 08-26-2007, 06:52 PM

Hello,

My boyfriend and I just bought a house well he did my name isn't on it...i'm being tagged along lol... we havn't been dating that long and just tierd of renting after the problems we've encountered with our apt. I'm still in school just starting out...i'm 20 he's 29 so he's experianced life alot more than I have thats for sure. He was married before and I found out just before we were supposed to move intogether that the divorce hadn't been finalized yet but they've been separated for 4 years...andy way in may after i asked him about it he went and got it finalized... there's a lil background on us.

Ok so the problem he doesn't do anything anymore! as soon as we moved in together he stopped being the guy that was exactly what i wanted!

I have school and work and i can't take care of everything he expects me to pay half of everything...and do all the work he jokes around that its my job to do the dishes ppl ask us if there's a dishwasher in the new house and he says yup and points to me. i'm the "dishwasher" ahaha funny right :s

I spend my days off cleaning he spend them workig on his boat or out wiht his friends and when I ask for help i'm "nagging" and he does it all in a joking tone like he thinks its funny my apt stinks...the sink is full of dishes the last mountain of them i did at the begingin of the week are still in the drying rack...and i'm the only one who's done any packing and we move in 3 days! Ah you know that tight feeling you get in your chest when ur just so urrrged! thats a frequent feeling...

In no way am i the barefoot woman washign dishes, cooking with a kid attatched to her hip! I'm going to have a career and kids so i'll need this to be an acutal partnership.. I don't need nor do i want and archie bunker type husband...i'm afraid that is what this is turning into i'm scared to go back to school in a couple weeks because i'm afraid i'll be too stressed no with a house to take care of instead of a lil apt, and work

my messy life is frustrating me!

I don't know if i'm still in this for the right reason maybe...hanging onto the man that I first started dating and fell in love with who did everything for me without complaint.

should i stay or go what do i say to him?

we havn't faught yet almost a year now... i love spending time with him he's one of my best friends so much in common... but i don't feel respected what do i do?

your opinons would be greatly apreciated!

08-26-2007, 06:52 PM	#1 (permalink)
dawn Registered User Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 1	Help! don't know what to do anymore Hello, My boyfriend and I just bought a house well he did my name isn't on it...i'm being tagged along lol... we havn't been dating that long and just tierd of renting after the problems we've encountered with our apt. I'm still in school just starting out...i'm 20 he's 29 so he's experianced life alot more than I have thats for sure. He was married before and I found out just before we were supposed to move intogether that the divorce hadn't been finalized yet but they've been separated for 4 years...andy way in may after i asked him about it he went and got it finalized... there's a lil background on us. Ok so the problem he doesn't do anything anymore! as soon as we moved in together he stopped being the guy that was exactly what i wanted! I have school and work and i can't take care of everything he expects me to pay half of everything...and do all the work he jokes around that its my job to do the dishes ppl ask us if there's a dishwasher in the new house and he says yup and points to me. i'm the "dishwasher" ahaha funny right :s I spend my days off cleaning he spend them workig on his boat or out wiht his friends and when I ask for help i'm "nagging" and he does it all in a joking tone like he thinks its funny my apt stinks...the sink is full of dishes the last mountain of them i did at the begingin of the week are still in the drying rack...and i'm the only one who's done any packing and we move in 3 days! Ah you know that tight feeling you get in your chest when ur just so urrrged! thats a frequent feeling... In no way am i the barefoot woman washign dishes, cooking with a kid attatched to her hip! I'm going to have a career and kids so i'll need this to be an acutal partnership.. I don't need nor do i want and archie bunker type husband...i'm afraid that is what this is turning into i'm scared to go back to school in a couple weeks because i'm afraid i'll be too stressed no with a house to take care of instead of a lil apt, and work my messy life is frustrating me! I don't know if i'm still in this for the right reason maybe...hanging onto the man that I first started dating and fell in love with who did everything for me without complaint. should i stay or go what do i say to him? we havn't faught yet almost a year now... i love spending time with him he's one of my best friends so much in common... but i don't feel respected what do i do? your opinons would be greatly apreciated!