Originally Posted by NextTimeAround
***I've confronted my wife about whether she is having an emotional affair, and she says she is not..***
What actions on her part have you noticed that make you suspect she is having an EA?
Okay, for one thing I have to preface this by describing my problems. I've been very frustrated that she wants to move out, and I had a bit of a breakthrough Saturday evening after she went to sleep. Prior to this breakthrough, I would react to her in a manner that was defensive and reactive. After the breakthrough, I listen to her, acknowledge her, express my understanding and refrain from defensiveness and reaction that only serve to inflame the situation.
This one simple breakthrough has been wonderful at starting a dramatic turnaround of a deteriorating relationship.
So with that said, I've suspected an EA because of the deteriorating relationship, because she has been texting this guy frequently, because she's been slightly deceptive - mind you, she knows I look at texts, she doesn't object, and she doesn't say anything much back. But he has a nickname for her "freckles" (she's a redhead) that has been uncomfortable.
There's more to the story from our past before we had kids I won't get in to. Suffice to say we've been in counseling before and I've always been a LH.