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Toffer · 05-16-2012, 01:10 PM

Will,

Wake up and get your head out of you azz quickly! Do some reading in the Coping With Infidelity forum.

While you may be right that your wife isn't having an affair currently, she's waving a TON of red flags that she may be having one or is thinking about one

she's younger than me and has some growing up to do - Red Flag

he frequently texts her. My wife doesn't text back very much, sometimes not at all (that you know of. Is she possibly deleting texts?) - Red Flag

I've gathered that he is separated from his wife - HUGE Red Flag

I think, is that he is having an emotional affair type attachment to my wife. Another big Red Flag. There's an expression that cheaters allways "affair down" that means they usually trade down from their spouse in regards to looks, financial status and personality

She's getting a nearby apartment - Red Flag - She's getting almost free reign (yes, I saw the part about the kids) to explore her feelings for the other man (OM) and keep you on stand-by if it doesn;t work out. Plus you'll have the house all fixed up for her IF she comes back to you!

She is without the kids 4 days of the week - Red Flag - What's to prevent sleepovers on these days? How many hours does she normally work on Thu/Fri/Sat?/Sun?

I don't think it really is a detail that's significantly germain to the question - Red Flag - You're burying your head in the sand my friend and ignoring a very real possibility that your wife is cheating on you. You need to rule this out!

Do you have access to the cell phone account? If so, starting reviewing past invoices to see if there are alot of texts/phone calls to numbers you don't know. Does she keep her phone with her at all times? Is it password protected?

Does she have a PC that she will have with her in her apartment? If so, get a keylogger on it NOW before she moves! Also plant a voice activated recorder in her car under the seat with heavy duty velcro.

Again, while I may be WAY OFF base here, what could it hurt for you to check into this? It would at least put your mind at ease and tell you whether or not you truly have a shot a fixing your marriage.

05-16-2012, 01:10 PM	#9 (permalink)
Toffer Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: East Coast Posts: 2,819	Re: Handling a wife's emotional affair or maybe the EA of my wife's friend toward my Will, Wake up and get your head out of you azz quickly! Do some reading in the Coping With Infidelity forum. While you may be right that your wife isn't having an affair currently, she's waving a TON of red flags that she may be having one or is thinking about one she's younger than me and has some growing up to do - Red Flag he frequently texts her. My wife doesn't text back very much, sometimes not at all (that you know of. Is she possibly deleting texts?) - Red Flag I've gathered that he is separated from his wife - HUGE Red Flag I think, is that he is having an emotional affair type attachment to my wife. Another big Red Flag. There's an expression that cheaters allways "affair down" that means they usually trade down from their spouse in regards to looks, financial status and personality She's getting a nearby apartment - Red Flag - She's getting almost free reign (yes, I saw the part about the kids) to explore her feelings for the other man (OM) and keep you on stand-by if it doesn;t work out. Plus you'll have the house all fixed up for her IF she comes back to you! She is without the kids 4 days of the week - Red Flag - What's to prevent sleepovers on these days? How many hours does she normally work on Thu/Fri/Sat?/Sun? I don't think it really is a detail that's significantly germain to the question - Red Flag - You're burying your head in the sand my friend and ignoring a very real possibility that your wife is cheating on you. You need to rule this out! Do you have access to the cell phone account? If so, starting reviewing past invoices to see if there are alot of texts/phone calls to numbers you don't know. Does she keep her phone with her at all times? Is it password protected? Does she have a PC that she will have with her in her apartment? If so, get a keylogger on it NOW before she moves! Also plant a voice activated recorder in her car under the seat with heavy duty velcro. Again, while I may be WAY OFF base here, what could it hurt for you to check into this? It would at least put your mind at ease and tell you whether or not you truly have a shot a fixing your marriage.