Originally Posted by Toffer
Again, while I may be WAY OFF base here, what could it hurt for you to check into this? It would at least put your mind at ease and tell you whether or not you truly have a shot a fixing your marriage.
Let me be clear - it is not that I haven't considered all of that. I have. I just want the discussion focussed on my specific question. Whether I speak with OM is my question because it is an area where I am uncertain about how to deal with the situation. Everything else, I am not asking about because I don't have uncertainty about dealing with it.
To answer a few questions - I review our cell phone online frequently to see if she's active with texting, I know and recognize OM's phone number, my wife has her phone with her during the day but leaves it out at night, she doesn't lock it. She leaves her texts on the phone. I compare her texts to the phone records, there are not texts that get deleted before I see them.