Originally Posted by seriously_yours
Good point, your question stands.
You should absolutely speak to him
Who knows what he is being told by her. She may be leading him on. Alternately this may all be innocent and if so no harm done. Telling the dude you are working on your marriage and his interactions may hinder that will not hurt you in any way. He might just do the right thing and back off
Not every dude is a D-Bag
Then take the time to understand and deal with the issues you identified in the marriage. SO much focus on catching, maybe the same level of effort in fixing would help ?
what you do speaks so loud, I can't hear what you say
Well ya know, that speaks to me too. Ya know, while between jobs I've picked up the kids. The dude never seemed awkward around me, he said hi to me. I never got a sense he had any antipathy towards me.
I'm still thinking it might be best to talk with my wife. My only aprehension on that is at this point, I do have work repairing the relationship and that includes winning her back. I do want to avoid things where I'll get emotional in front of my wife.