Originally Posted by Hope1964
Are the kids old enough for you to maintain contact with them and not with her?
I agree you should tell her friends and family and the OM's wife/gf/family. She'll know you know after that.
So sorry she did this to you
The youngest is 16 and still lives with me. He isn't driving yet so she comes to pick him up. Last time we had a confrontation, it was because she was at my house trying to pick him up and help him collect his things before they left. She was SUPPOSED to be there and gone before I ever got home, but instead she was there when I arrived. That sorta thing happens occasionally. I really need to set some ground rules so that doesn't happen again.
In other cases, its because she has tried to be my friend. She will come over to get the youngest and take him to dinner, and she would invite me to come along. Other times, she has tried to invite me to come to a movie with the kids. I have never accepted this offer. But I have gone to dinner a few times with them over the past couple of months. If I had only knew what kind of monster I was dealing with, I would have never agreed. I thought she was just trying to maintain relations with me because maybe there was hope for a future.