carmaenforcer

Hello frustratedinphx
let me see if I got this right;
You neglected your husband sexually for 2 years after the birth of your first child. Feeling you were justified in not giving your husband any sex because you were feeling some sort of discomfort due to child birth.
He most likely harbors some sort of resentment because of this and or your handling of it, whatever, but now doesn't want your sex anymore.
This from a guys point of view, is completely understandable and to be expected. It one of those, "uh-duh!" things.

Now you are pregnant with your second child, so I guess he did give in at least once, but now will not touch you because he claims not to be attracted to you while your pregnant.
You have found comfort in the arms of a supposed friend that you just happened to mess around with, basically already cheated on your husband with this guy because he is telling you everything you want to hear. You have not had intercourse with your friend but plan on it soon, already set a date, while you have your husbands baby inside of you. 8 month old baby inside you, but he don't mind, so you don't mind.

I say if you are serious about making things work with your husband, you should at least let your self suffer a bit before seeking shelter in the bed of another man. I would say, he has at least two years worth of letting you stew for what you did to him. Talk it out with your husband, if you are honest about wanting to make your marriage work. Tell him what you've done with this other guy so far, and see if your husband even wants to make anything work with you after that. You never know he might just tell you to hit the road and you can then go have sex with this new understanding friend without having to cheat again.