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I know you posted in the ladies lounge, but from a guy's perspective, I don't think you are being needy. Your desires sound reasonable to me. I share your desires and my wife doesn't meet them either. But, in my situation, I didn't meet my wifes needs for so long her love for me died. It may be that there is more to your husband's behavior. As a starting point, I suggest reading The Five Languages of Love. If your husband will do it he should read it too. It will give you some very good insight into how different people show and receive love. It could be that you aren't meeting his needs either. While the two of you still have love for each other I would get to work on finding out the issues and starting the repair process. I may well have waited too late to understand my wife's important needs. I still love her but she doesn't love me. I don't wish my situation on anyone and hope that you and your husband can start working this out sooner rather than later. Please do not misunderstand me, I am not indicating that you are doing anything wrong, but without knowing more about your situation, these are my thoughts. Take them for what they are worth. Good luck and best wishes

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