Originally Posted by Maricha75
I have to say this... if you explained things to the therapist the way you have here, I can actually picture his/her head spinning with the information.
The thing is, I have no clear idea what exactly you were wanting to know. Your wife moved out, or is moving out, for reasons unrelated to an EA that may or may not be occurring. Honestly, while that may not be THE reason, in the back of her mind, it is a factor. You THINK there is nothing to worry about regarding this man because all texts that you saw were generic, friendly, kid related. The thing is, you don't now what those DELETED texts say. Whether she moved out for house renovations or whatever... the point is, you are separated. It gives her the opportunity because you won't always be around. I really don't understand why you can't move into this apartment WITH your wife. It makes no sense. But, it is your life. Your choices. You believe she won't/wouldn't actually have an affair of any kind... I didn't think I would either... nor did I think my husband would. I guess, all I can offer is to keep your eyes open. Kinda hard to do when you are separated tho. =/
THe moving in I'm hoping will maybe happen once the relationship heals. It would not be realistic to expect it to happen the first day she moves spends in the apartment, which will be this Saturday, when it's less than a week after the relationship turned around. Miracles could happen, but I'm not going to get them to happen by pushing because it has to be her idea.
Here's the thing we actually need to get through with the therapist. Our relationship has been more like father-daughter than husband wife. She's done the growth she needed from the father-daughter relationship, that relationship NEEDS to end. We need to start a new husband-wife relationship.