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donny64 · 05-17-2012, 01:17 AM

The "too tired" thing is pure, unadulterated BS! Stress can be a factor, but "too tired"? No.

Maybe he's stressed. You know what, I've said this before, SEX DOES NOT HAVE TO BE MUTUALLY PHYSICALLY SATISFYING all of the time. There is great satisfaction in giving to another when there is nothing in it for you outside of their satisfaction. It's why we love to give gifts. "Better to give than receive" should never have more weight than it does in the marital bedroom as far as I'm concerned.

And as I've said before, we do non-sexual things to please our partners all the time. Back rubs. Foot rubs. Taking out the garbage, cooking a meal, or paying bills! There is nothing mutually physically satisfying about any of that, so why, when it involves a couple silly body parts below the belt, should that suddenly change? It shouldn't! He may not want it as often as you. That's fine. But as someone who loves you, he should not be denying you what you want simply because it is not physically satisfying for him. Assuming of course, you're not a sex addict, which you do not appear to be. A couple-three times a week is on the low side of a healthy, strong desire. You're good.

05-17-2012, 01:17 AM	#2 (permalink)
donny64 Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 677	Re: over it all! The "too tired" thing is pure, unadulterated BS! Stress can be a factor, but "too tired"? No. Maybe he's stressed. You know what, I've said this before, SEX DOES NOT HAVE TO BE MUTUALLY PHYSICALLY SATISFYING all of the time. There is great satisfaction in giving to another when there is nothing in it for you outside of their satisfaction. It's why we love to give gifts. "Better to give than receive" should never have more weight than it does in the marital bedroom as far as I'm concerned. And as I've said before, we do non-sexual things to please our partners all the time. Back rubs. Foot rubs. Taking out the garbage, cooking a meal, or paying bills! There is nothing mutually physically satisfying about any of that, so why, when it involves a couple silly body parts below the belt, should that suddenly change? It shouldn't! He may not want it as often as you. That's fine. But as someone who loves you, he should not be denying you what you want simply because it is not physically satisfying for him. Assuming of course, you're not a sex addict, which you do not appear to be. A couple-three times a week is on the low side of a healthy, strong desire. You're good.