Originally Posted by muttgirl
I am having problems with dep and anx with a h who has checked out of our relationship.
He is checked out and I talked to him and yelled at him
This is part of why I am depressed but the mood and sleep issues are aggravated by him and his absence. Any and all advice is welcome.
I suffer from depression and anxiety (fixed now). My first question to you is which came first? The depression or the checked out husband? In my case its a toss up.
The cure (for me) was to heal myself and to learn to be happy WITHOUT him. See the more I focused on HIM the more powerless I became. I couldn't change him but I could change me.
Another question do you yell a lot? I used to and that was a contributing factor in why my husband checked out. He was scared of me. He's in the happy wife happy life camp. The more depressed I was the more moody/checked out he became. He felt like a failure. These days I still struggle but I reassure him that this is MY problem not his.
This was a long process for me to fix my marriage. There are no quick fixes when there is the depression/checked out husband combo. It's complicated.