| | Re: when do you know it's over, even when you are still in love?
No counseling for you as a couple? It great that you looked into yourself individually, but perhaps counseling as a couple.
Since you have children, divorce make things so complicated. Why would he even have a possibility of full custody? Now days, if both parents are fit, there is joint custody. The court really does try to do what is right for the children (usually).
There are some deep rooted issues that your husband has....try the counseling route and see if things can come out into the open.