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psychocandy · 04-29-2008, 06:08 AM

Having problems at the moment with feeling very anxious, insecure, and paranoid with my wife. Really stupid because theres no evidence that I need to be and shes said tons of times that theres not.

Trouble is I still get ideas in my head that I need to ask her something, get reassurance etc. Even if shes answered the same questions ten times before....

For instance, yesterday, I kept on asking stupid questions about her upcoming night out with her friend. Really stupid stuff which looked as if I didnt trust her.

I know shes getting really upset about it and I know I shouldnt be so heavy handed like this....

Trouble is like I said, I get this idea in my head, and I feel I've GOT TO sort it out now. Dont know whether its the depression or the new meds I'm taking (effexor - 10 weeks) that is causing me to be like this.

However, I'm acutely aware that this sort of untrusting, controlling behaviour on my part is not a great idea for our relationship...

04-29-2008, 06:08 AM	#3 (permalink)
psychocandy Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 399	how not to let depression ruin your relationship ? I dont know.... Having problems at the moment with feeling very anxious, insecure, and paranoid with my wife. Really stupid because theres no evidence that I need to be and shes said tons of times that theres not. Trouble is I still get ideas in my head that I need to ask her something, get reassurance etc. Even if shes answered the same questions ten times before.... For instance, yesterday, I kept on asking stupid questions about her upcoming night out with her friend. Really stupid stuff which looked as if I didnt trust her. I know shes getting really upset about it and I know I shouldnt be so heavy handed like this.... Trouble is like I said, I get this idea in my head, and I feel I've GOT TO sort it out now. Dont know whether its the depression or the new meds I'm taking (effexor - 10 weeks) that is causing me to be like this. However, I'm acutely aware that this sort of untrusting, controlling behaviour on my part is not a great idea for our relationship...