| | Re: Not getting any. Can't bear it :(
I too am living in a sexless marriage. I'm the partner who wants more sex, and sometimes it really upsets me. I get angry and frustrated. But you know what? I don't "need" sex. I just want it, really really badly.
I have read a lot of comments on here about how the partner who is withholding sex is being selfish and whatnot - but I can't imagine anything much worse than having sex if you don't want to have sex.
In a marriage there are always going to be disagreements, and sex seems like a big one. But I can't force my wife to want to have sex.
It's taken me a while to figure this out. Our sex life has been nearly non-existent for going on 5 years. But otherwise my wife and I have a great relationship. We get along really well, we laugh all the time, we share goals and interests - we really are best friends, working together to make our life.
So as for sex, well, I get a lot done these days. Lets just put it that way. I have hobbies, I keep myself busy. I am also getting pretty creative when it comes to masturbation.
It's not perfect, but no marriage is. Practice patience and forgiveness, and figuring out how to deal with things the way they are, instead of dealing with the way you would prefer them to be.