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Amplexor · 04-29-2008, 06:30 AM

Mr. Unsure

Your story sound remarkably familiar to my own so I will be blunt. It is highly likely that your wife is involved in an emotional affair. She may be looking for some kind of support and comfort she feels she is not getting from you. As posted above depression is a possibility. My advice to you is to talk with her and show her the phone bill. Since it is listed on your phone bill it is not like your are snooping. And if she was really trying to hide something from you she could have just as easily purchased a track phone with cash. When you discuss this with her keep a calm head. More than likely she will deny any relationship and you must try hard to understand her feelings and what your intuition tells you. My wife stated it was only a friendship and only until several months later did she fully realize she was in love with him. There was never any direct contact between them so this was not a physical affair but none the less it severely damaged the marriage. On the positive note finding out about it was certainly a warning shot across my bow so we have been working on our marriage ever since. Nearly a year now.

Keep your wits about you and calmly discuss this. Then both of you will need to take a hard look at the marriage and see where you both need to improve. Sitting, wondering and stewing about it won’t do any good. There is an issue here and you both deserve to know where you sit in all of this. Again, keep your cool, consider her feelings and be ready for what could be a very difficult time in your marriage. Also an opportunity. Good luck.

04-29-2008, 06:30 AM	#6 (permalink)
Amplexor Moderator Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Midwest Posts: 511	Re: Phone calls Mr. Unsure Your story sound remarkably familiar to my own so I will be blunt. It is highly likely that your wife is involved in an emotional affair. She may be looking for some kind of support and comfort she feels she is not getting from you. As posted above depression is a possibility. My advice to you is to talk with her and show her the phone bill. Since it is listed on your phone bill it is not like your are snooping. And if she was really trying to hide something from you she could have just as easily purchased a track phone with cash. When you discuss this with her keep a calm head. More than likely she will deny any relationship and you must try hard to understand her feelings and what your intuition tells you. My wife stated it was only a friendship and only until several months later did she fully realize she was in love with him. There was never any direct contact between them so this was not a physical affair but none the less it severely damaged the marriage. On the positive note finding out about it was certainly a warning shot across my bow so we have been working on our marriage ever since. Nearly a year now. Keep your wits about you and calmly discuss this. Then both of you will need to take a hard look at the marriage and see where you both need to improve. Sitting, wondering and stewing about it won’t do any good. There is an issue here and you both deserve to know where you sit in all of this. Again, keep your cool, consider her feelings and be ready for what could be a very difficult time in your marriage. Also an opportunity. Good luck. __________________ Amp Confidence – Love – Patience – Faith Are the tools to help heal a marriage.