sinnister

Is that the woman you married? Has she always been this way?

Sometimes our spouses change and not for the better. Have you considered the possibility that this isn't just stress induced? Given the sheer magnitude and frequency of her verbal attacks and threatening of your mother I would say that this has become a character trait rather than just marriage woes.

Can you live with this new character trait? She's not listening to you when you approach things reasonably. She didn't listen to your mother, probably won't listen to hers either.

And then going out to see her friend....ughh. I just don't like when a woman is in a fragile state of mind about a relationship and she goes to speak to a "Female Friend". It just scares me that she got toxic advice.