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carmaenforcer · 04-29-2008, 10:47 AM

Bringing toys into the bed room is a dangerous thing for someone that is insecure about their sexual abilities in the first place.
Now I don't know if your insecurities are personal in nature involving your abilities in the bed room or are only towards other men or your Wifes flirtatiousness.
Was the bringing a toy into the bed room your idea or your Wifes?
A healthy happy sex life is an important thing to already have before inviting other players into the mix, which is what a toy is.

I mean if you are already having issues with getting some and your woman treating her sex like something that she rations out and that you have no say in when you two have sex, how is her having another outlet in a drawer just waiting to take your place going to help? Sorry for the run on question, but seriously, did you honestly think that your woman would include you in her pleasuring herself, if she doesn't even let you have a say in when you have normal sex.

Oh well, Pandora's box has already been opened, there is nothing to be done now other than just trying to talk to your Wife about what your expectation were for bringing a toy into the house and that you would have not agreed to her buying it if you thought it would take time away from you two having real sex. Note that she will try to argue that one thing has nothing to do with the other but that's a lie and you should stick to your convictions or just give it up and step down another peg in the hierarchy of your sexual relationship with your woman.

Think about it, if she already makes you jump through hoops and things have to be just right before you get any, you don't think she will be more quick to take care of herself when she finally does get the urge. The toy doesn't have to kiss her a_s, or spend any quality bonding time before taking care of business.

I suggest you talk to her A.S.A.P. about your concerns, or just let it go. Letting it go might be your best bet considering she don't even let you have a say in your own sex lives together, I'm almost 100% sure she will tell you that you have no say in the matter and she will do what she wants. But hey, for sake of those that see the good in women, it's at least worth the try.
I mean I could be wrong and your woman might actually care about your opinion, right.

04-29-2008, 10:47 AM	#5 (permalink)
carmaenforcer Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 151	Re: Am I being really stupid here? Bringing toys into the bed room is a dangerous thing for someone that is insecure about their sexual abilities in the first place. Now I don't know if your insecurities are personal in nature involving your abilities in the bed room or are only towards other men or your Wifes flirtatiousness. Was the bringing a toy into the bed room your idea or your Wifes? A healthy happy sex life is an important thing to already have before inviting other players into the mix, which is what a toy is. I mean if you are already having issues with getting some and your woman treating her sex like something that she rations out and that you have no say in when you two have sex, how is her having another outlet in a drawer just waiting to take your place going to help? Sorry for the run on question, but seriously, did you honestly think that your woman would include you in her pleasuring herself, if she doesn't even let you have a say in when you have normal sex. Oh well, Pandora's box has already been opened, there is nothing to be done now other than just trying to talk to your Wife about what your expectation were for bringing a toy into the house and that you would have not agreed to her buying it if you thought it would take time away from you two having real sex. Note that she will try to argue that one thing has nothing to do with the other but that's a lie and you should stick to your convictions or just give it up and step down another peg in the hierarchy of your sexual relationship with your woman. Think about it, if she already makes you jump through hoops and things have to be just right before you get any, you don't think she will be more quick to take care of herself when she finally does get the urge. The toy doesn't have to kiss her a_s, or spend any quality bonding time before taking care of business. I suggest you talk to her A.S.A.P. about your concerns, or just let it go. Letting it go might be your best bet considering she don't even let you have a say in your own sex lives together, I'm almost 100% sure she will tell you that you have no say in the matter and she will do what she wants. But hey, for sake of those that see the good in women, it's at least worth the try. I mean I could be wrong and your woman might actually care about your opinion, right.