Originally Posted by working_together
And waiting for the papers to be signed, does it really make a difference in how you feel in terms of your healing??? It doesn't make sense to me. One day is no different than the next, or the week, or month.
And I don't want to sound mean, but it almost sounds like some people judge others who don't wait, and put all the mumbo jumbo, you need to heal, go through the stages of grief etc. I'm 44, I'm not going to wait around for menopause to hit...ya know?
I still don't think it's cheating, but I know a lot of others believe it is, especially if they've been cheated on.
My own opinion... if you still have feelings for your ex, then your mind and heart are not truly open to another person. And I think it's more that it's not "fair" to a new person to be dating them, when you aren't open to letting them see the real you, or open to being involved. Paperwork isn't involved in this process.