shane33

i kinda know what u r going through and i think you 2 have comunication problems.I also think u are resenting him for dragging u away from everyone. As a guy i know we pick up on a female who is unhappy and if it stays that way for long then men will pull back and shelter them selves its our way of not being hurt we act like a tough guy on the out side but on the inside we are afraid of being hurt or rejected. If you are sending rejection signals he will be picking up on them and continue to defend himself now as things go on it is getting worse and u 2 are butting heads not wanting to back down so noone shows weakness but it is a silly game.I read your whole story and it is very similar to my situation and i can tell you when my wife left me and i came home to an empty house and no kids or wife around it was a big wake up call for me and i am trying very hard to make it right with her. It maybe a very real possiblity for you to separate from him for a bit to wake him up and so he can see the real picture. It will defanatly wake him up but i can not say which way he will go he may come to you but then he may go to someone else. Now you have already gone to someone else for comfort but be careful because that is not a good situation. I think you need to let him go and see what happens if he comes to you then you can work it out if not well then you can move on also there is no point in beating a dead horse and making you both miserable. I would like you to do something first though step back and look carefully and make sure you are fully aware of the situation and you are not blinded by something try and put yourself in his shoes for a bit and take a good honest look at things before you make a dession good luck