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Amplexor · 04-29-2008, 02:15 PM

Weetbix

I feel your pain to some extent. To have your wife do something like this must be devastating. And in your own house while you were there to boot. You have nothing to be ashamed of. You are the strong one here who made the tough decision to stick it out and work on the marriage. Your wife is the lucky one. Your friends should admire you for what you are willing to do for your family. Many men would not show your strength of character. I can’t tell you how much time this will take but be prepared. Not setting deadlines or benchmarks is the proper approach at this time. Emotions such as trust, love and faith don’t work on arbitrary time frames. It sounds as if your wife has made progress in her understanding of what happened and is dealing with the remorse now. Give her and yourself time and don’t be overly concerned if it takes a lot of it. I’m am coming up on one year since I found out about her EA and at times it has been difficult but we’ve had a lot of good times also. Things will get easier with time and you can distance yourselves from the events that took place. In addition to working on your marriage, be sure to spend plenty of time with the kids as a couple. Time as a family can do wonders in helping people through this. Good luck.

04-29-2008, 02:15 PM	#10 (permalink)
Amplexor Moderator Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Midwest Posts: 740	Re: Feeling hollow inside Weetbix I feel your pain to some extent. To have your wife do something like this must be devastating. And in your own house while you were there to boot. You have nothing to be ashamed of. You are the strong one here who made the tough decision to stick it out and work on the marriage. Your wife is the lucky one. Your friends should admire you for what you are willing to do for your family. Many men would not show your strength of character. I can’t tell you how much time this will take but be prepared. Not setting deadlines or benchmarks is the proper approach at this time. Emotions such as trust, love and faith don’t work on arbitrary time frames. It sounds as if your wife has made progress in her understanding of what happened and is dealing with the remorse now. Give her and yourself time and don’t be overly concerned if it takes a lot of it. I’m am coming up on one year since I found out about her EA and at times it has been difficult but we’ve had a lot of good times also. Things will get easier with time and you can distance yourselves from the events that took place. In addition to working on your marriage, be sure to spend plenty of time with the kids as a couple. Time as a family can do wonders in helping people through this. Good luck. __________________ Amp Confidence – Love – Patience – Faith Are the tools to help heal a marriage.