Originally Posted by jh52
One quick comment about what you said at the end "I miss what we had". What you had was not working -- both of you need help and to make changes IMO.
Right, we haven't always been the perfect couple, but we always were very close. I know it doesn't make it right. What I don't understand is why the counselors feel we need to fix ourselves first, and why the marriage cannot be worked on at the same time. A lot of my issues stem from wanting to keep the peace, I hate rocking the boat. But in the end it leads to a lot of stress and anxiety (I'm 38 and have 2 BP Meds, and 2 anxiety meds), mainly because I cant say no even when I know it will lead to turmoil (Insanity) I think is what you call it!!