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Originally Posted by trish_n_s
I don't know if my marriage is over or not. I know marriage isn't easy, I know there will be arguments and disagreements but it feels like they never end.
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This is never a good sign, a marriage should not be about fighting with one another but fighting together against the world. Everyone given enough time will disagree but a marriage needs to be more then friendship, but have that in the mix too.
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I found out when I was 8 months pregnant that my husband of 3 years was addicted to porn. Here I am, HUGE and I found stuff on his computer. After talking to him I found out his addiction has been around since before we were married!
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This isn't that unusual however you have to decide what you can live with and if you can't deal with the porn he needs to decide if he can live without it for you.
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So now I'm wondering who I'm married to.
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You are married to the same guy you just know more now then you did before.
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It has really affected me. I know I'm not attractive anymore my body has gone through so much having a 9 pound baby c-section.
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huh? you just put your body through heck and back, for yourself and him. He needs to respect the entire picture, here and you need to be more forgiving of yourself. After my second child with my wife she gained 30 pounds but got that after baby glow to her AND SHE WAS MORE BEAUTIFL THEN AT HER PERFECT WEIGHT. since we had an another child she has lost that weight and kept that glow (even better.)
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I have this beautiful baby and I want the best for him. I know my husband is trying to change but he can be the biggest, most selfish jerk ever!
We argue about everything now.
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This isn't healthy for the baby
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We'll try and compromise on what we're arguing about but in the end he won't stick to his end of the bargain. I'm really unhappy most of the time and find myself at my parents house rather then here. When I am here and we are on good terms and talking one little thing will set him off. Then all the meanness comes out: "why do you always have to nag me! do you ever stop talking?? seriously, i don't want to talk to you" I do not deserve that treatment. I don't trust a lot of the things he says anymore.
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I think you already know where this is going.
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It's hard to believe anything he tells me. Is there anyway to get that trust back?
I don't even know if I'm in the right place for all this. I really don't know what to do...
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Communication....You need to tell him what you need from him and let him know that at this point it is make it or break it. That you can't live like this and will not be treated this way anymore and that it is unhealthy to have your child raised this way.
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