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Chopblock · 04-30-2008, 11:49 AM

I say you should keep the business completely separate from your married life. For liability purposes and whatnot, that is the smartest move.

To that end, I agree with what was said earlier about finding other things for him to do. It really does sound like your issue is with him "relaxing" while you are working so hard. Seeing as you never complained about the amount of money he brings in, and never said you were in dire straights, I am doubly convinced of the above conclusion -- you hate that you are in the office while he is on the beach.

Attacking his profession won't do you any good -- it is part of who he is. If you want to be manipulative and negative you can go that "I don't see you as a 'man' I see you as a child" route and combine that with withholding sex, but that will only help in the short term and cause damages in the long term.

So if you just need to see him busy because you are busy, I think you have a self-imposed mental block that you need to get over. Is your husband REALLY a lazy man? Is he a worthless layabout using you as a sugar momma?

Orrrr.... is he a partner who makes his living in a field that is sporadic. Does he love what he does? Trust me that is worth it. If you make him get a 9-5 job he hates just so he has a regular paycheck, he will be so miserable that you will YEARN for these days.

04-30-2008, 11:49 AM	#8 (permalink)
Chopblock Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 213	Re: Money Issues... I say you should keep the business completely separate from your married life. For liability purposes and whatnot, that is the smartest move. To that end, I agree with what was said earlier about finding other things for him to do. It really does sound like your issue is with him "relaxing" while you are working so hard. Seeing as you never complained about the amount of money he brings in, and never said you were in dire straights, I am doubly convinced of the above conclusion -- you hate that you are in the office while he is on the beach. Attacking his profession won't do you any good -- it is part of who he is. If you want to be manipulative and negative you can go that "I don't see you as a 'man' I see you as a child" route and combine that with withholding sex, but that will only help in the short term and cause damages in the long term. So if you just need to see him busy because you are busy, I think you have a self-imposed mental block that you need to get over. Is your husband REALLY a lazy man? Is he a worthless layabout using you as a sugar momma? Orrrr.... is he a partner who makes his living in a field that is sporadic. Does he love what he does? Trust me that is worth it. If you make him get a 9-5 job he hates just so he has a regular paycheck, he will be so miserable that you will YEARN for these days.