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I have to agree with Green Moo as well.. I know for men it can be a case of.. 'on Friday I am going to have sex' but a woman while generally willing, may not be able to switch it on in the same way to order. You shouldn't read anything more into it.

A sex toy can be fun, but I wouldn't blame your wife for trying it out on her own first.. if it's new to her, it can be quite scary.. try looking at it as if she was practicing for you..

Asfor it being different, well it's the man woman thing again, for a woman the intimate contact (the touching, kissing, whispered sweet nothings) with her man, is far more important than the act itself, and while of course men have strong feelings too, often there is a single minded determination to 'have sex' rather than lovemaking.. mens needs can be different to women's.

I'm sure if you both talk to each other about which parts you feel the othe is doing wrong, then you will sort it out. Get over the sex toy issue.. because it really isn't one..

Can i also say.. carmaenforcer, people come here to hear other views, and get help, sometimes just to talk things out, to help them understand their problems better.. it's great that you participate, but while we can and should disagree with viewpoints, we shouldn't be judging people.

In your post above you made remarks about this man's wife saying she rations out sex and he doesn't have a say.. but i can't see any such thing in his post?