Originally Posted by canttrustu
so basically, he thinks because he did it so will I? Even though I have proven that I wont. I wont say never. Never is a dangerous word. But I guess your point is that Im convicted before hand b/c he did it? Though I have had years of an appropriate friendship with this guy. Boundaries and all. Now that H has strayed, Im on the hotseat???
It's not so much that you WILL... He's afraid. He's afraid you will do it too. My husband swore he would never do it either. In my case, my fear was correct. But in your husband's, it is not. He's afraid he will lose you. You said you are in counseling, right? Bring it up in the next session. See how it can be addressed.