Originally Posted by canttrustu
No. We arent in MC-he is in IC. I did IC for several months when I first figured out the EA. Even before he admitted to it and for a few months afterward. He continues IC. And he is afraid. Admittedly so. I can understand that. I too feel that fear since seeing how easily he became involved with someone else. I think he was in denial about how easily these things can happen and now he thinks "wow, if I did it whats stopping her? I mean there he is right in her face" Not realistic but and emotional reaction.
BINGO! That's just it... "what's to stop her?" Now, IF, and that's a big IF, you can manage to go to one of his sessions (the next one, maybe?), if it's allowed, see if there is anything that can be done to get him over that fear. OBVIOUSLY, you are not responsible for his fears. He is. And you are not obligated to make him feel better. But it's driving you nuts. And if anything can get him to stop hounding you, because of his fears, ask his therapist what that might be.