Re: Trying to Work it Out
to Carmeanforcer - How long ago did your wife cheat? What happened intially once you founf out? Have you staying only for the child? If so, I think that is wrong because you need to make sure you are happy - it's too much of a sacrafice for you to live your life unhappy. Also, I am sure if you decide to part it won't be easy for you or your child but kids are resilient & will adapt.
I am amazed how well my 2 girls are adjusting to our seperation ( they are 7 & 2). I think it is always the parents fear how the kids will react. The research says that how the kids adjust is often directly related to how parent handle the situation & if they can be civil to each other.
do you really hope to work things out? or are you just going through the motions?
Isn't that classic that your wife used to use that pharse 'always a cheater" but when you reltated it to her - she thought she was the exception.
What has she done to prove to you that she is being truthful & not deceiving anymore? Is it fair to you to have to constantly scrutinize her behavior & decide how you are going act towards her based on her actions. What happened to loving "unconditionally" if you decided to stay.
Best of luck to you - sounds like you need to evaluate if you are happy living your life the way it is. . .
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